12 July 2025
We all want our kids to thrive—whether that’s academically, socially, or emotionally. And as they grow, one skill that becomes more and more important is working with others. Yep, we’re talking about group work and team activities. From classroom projects to sports teams and even school clubs, being able to collaborate, share ideas, solve problems, and support one another is key.
But let’s face it: group work isn’t always easy… not even for adults. Some kids may shy away from it, while others may try to dominate. So, what’s the secret to helping your child not only survive group projects—but shine in them?
Let’s break it down.
Well, children aren't just learning about fractions and the periodic table in school. They're also learning how to communicate, compromise, and collaborate. These are the soft skills that stick with them well into adulthood.
Team activities teach:
- Empathy – understanding other perspectives
- Communication – expressing ideas clearly and actively listening
- Problem-solving – figuring out how to move forward together
- Leadership and responsibility
Think about your own life: how often have you had to work in a team or rely on someone else to achieve a common goal? Exactly. So, helping your child build these skills early on sets them up for long-term success.
- Shyness or social anxiety – Some kids find it hard to speak up.
- Perfectionism – Others may want things done their way and struggle to delegate.
- Lack of confidence – They may doubt their ability to contribute anything valuable.
- Previous bad experiences – Maybe a group project didn’t go so well and that memory's stuck.
Sound familiar? Don’t worry. These challenges are normal and 100% manageable.
Instead, talk about the advantages:
- “You get to learn from other people.”
- “It feels great when a team accomplishes something together.”
- “You don’t have to do all the work yourself—it’s a shared effort.”
Help them see group work as an opportunity, not a punishment.
- Someone not pulling their weight
- Two people wanting different ideas
- Needing to assign tasks fairly
Then talk through solutions together. Ask, “What could we say to make this better?” This builds confidence ahead of the real thing.
Teach them to:
- Wait their turn
- Look at the person speaking
- Nod or give small cues they’re paying attention
- Repeat back what they heard to make sure they understood
These skills may seem small, but they go a long way in showing respect and building trust.
When kids know their strengths, they’re more willing to speak up and contribute. They also learn to appreciate that others bring different strengths, too.
But here’s the kicker: resist the urge to hover.
That means resisting things like rewriting their slides at 10 p.m. or emailing the teacher for “clarification.” These actions show your child you don’t trust them to handle it—and unintentionally teach dependence.
Instead, be available as support if they ask, but let them steer the ship.
- How to disagree respectfully (“I see your point, but what if we tried this idea instead?”)
- The importance of compromise
- When to stand up for yourself vs. when to go with the flow
This kind of emotional coaching can make a huge difference when tensions rise in a group project or team sport.
These experiences are golden. They allow your child to build cooperative skills in a more relaxed setting. Plus, they might even make some new friends while they’re at it.
At the same time, use those less-than-perfect team experiences as learning moments. Ask questions like:
- “What went well in the group?”
- “What would you do differently next time?”
- “Did you feel heard? Why or why not?”
Encourage reflection without judgment.
Kids who consider others’ feelings and viewpoints tend to be better team players. So how do you teach this?
- Read books about teamwork or friendship and discuss the characters’ choices.
- Talk about your own work experiences and what you’ve learned from working with others.
- Ask your child to “step into someone else’s shoes” during group work stories.
It’s like giving them a pair of magic glasses that let them see the world from different angles.
It takes time, patience, and practice. But believe me, the payoff is worth it. Because when a child learns how to work well with others, they don’t just succeed in school—they thrive in life.
So next time your child mentions a group project, take a deep breath, give them a high five, and say, “You’ve got this!
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Category:
School ReadinessAuthor:
Noah Sawyer